cool... i guess

What is the definition of the word, 'cool'.  Well, according to the dictionary, it means, "fashionably attractive or impressive".  When I think of cool I think of the kids at school who stand out for being popular and having a lot of friends and being involved in a lot of school activities, sports in particular.  But who does this definition actually fit??? What are the standards you need to face in order to be considered cool??? How do you become cool???  The answer to all of the questions comes back to the topic of masculinity.  The definition actually fits those who are perceived to be masculine and be fashionably and physically attractive.  In order to become cool you must be masculine and you can only become cool if you are masculine.  However, why does whether or not you are deemed masculine affect if you are considered cool??? This is because we look up to those who stand out because they are strong or fashionable.  We decide who and what is cool.  But, we also decide what is masculine and what is not.  This is very unfair to the rest of the people of society who are not considered cool.  We have set so many standards for men that we are now telling boys to want to grow up and be masculine  and make a lot of money, play sports and be strong, and to never show their emotions.  We think that we are helping these boys, but, in fact, we are hurting them and holding them back.  Being less masculine is like taking a step down.  Everyone wants attention and wants people to like them but we are focusing too much on this aspect and now, boys are losing a sense of personal identity because of it.  I personally don't understand why a guy cant play with dolls, or like art, or play the flute without being identified as less masculine.  But, I guess the rest of society who makes the rules disagrees.  So, how can we change their minds???